I have always been an open book when it came to my life and my past. I’ve never been one to hang my head in shame or deny anything that I’ve lived through. But, after being deceived into sex trafficking a second time I made a promise to myself to never speak about it openly. I was trafficked for nearly half a year before I found the strength to find a way out. Within that year I was sometimes caged like a wild animal; only I couldn’t find any fight left in me. After I finally escaped that life I held it so deep inside that it seemed like at times I was just the girl watching that happen to someone else. I was so detached from the reality of what I had lived through that I wanted to believe the lie that it wasn’t true. Only, it is true and it was true; and it will always be true.
Only three years after living through things you only see in movies I married an Army boy with only one dimple on one cheek, a captivating smile, the strongest jaw line, and the funniest dance moves. You see this boy found me online and he pursued me so heavily that I fell for him. I fell so hard. Harder than any romantic fairy tale I’ve ever read. He is the most beautiful story to ever be written in the pages of my life. He is the music that plays in the background when I feel alone. He is the laughter that gets me through my darkest days. He is my soul mate and my biggest fan. I have been his wife for almost 11 years and that along with our two wild things makes the tormented past I lived through so worth living for.
God wasn’t done with my story because He had picked out this man for me. Only I couldn’t possibly see that because I was objectified. Completely and undoubtedly priced and treated like a belonging. When I married my husband he looked at me in a way no person had ever looked at me before. He saw me. He saw me for who I am and not what I had been through. My husband treats me like his most prized treasure and not like a possession. He humanized me, he rebuilt me, and he made me believe that I had worth. God used my husband to show me these things and because of that I told my husband ALL about my past except the part about being trafficked.
I have been married to my husband for almost 11 years and I didn’t tell my husband my entire truth until 2017. My heart was beating out of my chest and I felt the anxiety grasping tightly around my neck as I tried to get the words out. “I have to tell you something, something I’ve never told you about”, I said. He stopped what he was doing and looked at me as I cried and with a worrisome look on his face he asked, “What is it babe? What’s wrong?” I hung my head so low and I began to tell him my entire story. “I was sex trafficked babe. People paid for me. I am so sorry I never told you until this moment”, I said as I slightly lifted my head to catch a glimpse of his reaction. I was so afraid to lift my head and face him. I was so ashamed and so embarrassed. I thought maybe he would be so disgusted he would stop loving me.
When I looked up I watched tears streaming down his face and his face was flushed. I sobbed as I watched the man who doesn’t cry shed tears for me. I stood still and I prayed for strength to finish the conversation. He slowly walked right up to me and gently lifted my face with his strong protective hands, “When I look at you I see a strong and beautiful woman. I see my wife and the mother of our two boys. I don’t see any of that! I love you!” I collapsed into his arms and I wept; we wept. He held me and in that exact moment I experienced a marital freedom like I’ve never experienced before. He could have said anything. He could have had any reaction. But, he lifted me so high and God wrapped us in His arms. And that was the beginning of what has become part of my purpose. The confession; the one I was so afraid to speak for so many years.
In that moment both my husband and I knew that it could no longer be kept a secret. The silence had to be broken because the testimony is SO LOUD that it has to be heard. I have been gifted a husband who believes in what I’m doing here. He believes in what God is doing here. He has given me his blessing in speaking loudly about so many different things and I have been given the blessing of calling him mine.
I hope you’re at the edge of your seat because the upcoming blogs are about trafficking and are interviews with two of the most amazing people I know. If you made it this far, thank you for being part of this movement.
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